Sunday, May 9, 2021

MOTHER'S DAY

Happy Mother's Day -

to all mothers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers, mothers-to-be, wanna-be-mothers, reluctant mothers, transgender mothers, foster mothers, fairy godmothers, wicked stepmothers, unlawful mothers, and mothers-in-law.

Does that cover the gamut?
All jesting aside (possibly), I hope you have a wonderful day.


I was fortunate to have an extraordinary mother. She was my anchor in a sea of chaos and always one of my closest confidants. We had much in common. She was a brilliant pianist and my first piano teacher.
She endured unspeakable physical and emotional abuse from my father.
During my wildly destructive youth I was admittedly not easy to deal with.
Mom was always forgiving and had the endurance of a saint.

I post the same photos every year, mainly because they're among my favorites.

 

 
Marie
don't know how old she was here
perhaps three?

Taken in Red River, New Mexico, during the happiest time of her life - before she was married and long before I was conceived. My mother often (jokingly) said "When I die, bury me in Red River."
I like to think that her spirit is there, where the gentle wind sifts through the aspen trees with whispers of her memory.


Yellow roses, one of her favorite flowers

 

Her hair was naturally light
but she dyed it numerous colors
 
 

Solvang, California

Wearing an official Miss Universe dress

My cousin Patti was in the Miss Universe Pageant (I can't remember the year). She gave my Mom this dress designed for the pageant because they were the same size.
 
Note:
I wrote this "tribute" solely for my own selfish reasons and was very hesitant to post it. I'll probably remove it soon after Mother's Day.
 

18 comments:

  1. Jon, your mother was absolutely STUNNING! And I have to tell you seriously that you look just like her!

    And there is honestly nothing "selfish" about this post and sharing your beautiful memories and pics of your beloved mother with us. Thank you for posting this regardless of your reasons.

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    1. Thank you, Kim - I really appreciate that.

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  2. Well, I'm glad to get here before you (maybe) take it down. Not only do I remember these images, but I'm glad to see them again. I wish I'd have known her.

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    1. I often feign toughness but my sentimentality always gets in the way. I have no doubt that she would have liked you.

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  3. Your mother was very beautiful and no doubt a class act! It is sweet that you post this every year in her memory.

    But I would leave this entry up. Your blog is about your life after all, and your mother obviously had a positive influence on you - even if you did go to hell [some might actually call it paradise] and back in your promiscuous youth.

    She loved you unconditionally - something some mothers never do and few others in your life have done, if any - and gave you an appreciation for the finer things in life; things you always come back to.

    If you would just write that book....we could know so much more.

    And yes, you look just like her!

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    1. My Mom did indeed have a great positive influence in my life. She was an extraordinary woman in many ways.I inherited a lot of her good traits and (unfortunately) some of my father's rotten ones.

      The book needs to be written soon. I have a helluva lot to say.

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  4. Jon, I am thankful you blogged today. Your Mom was a gorgeous lady and you do indeed look like her. Today was a sad day here and I was glad to see your post. Thank you for sharing and thanks for the Mother's Day wishes. Have a good night.

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    1. Louise, I'm glad you enjoyed this post, but I'm so sorry this was a sad day for you. I'm assuming that painful memories or experiences are associated with this day. Please take care and be assured that you're not alone.

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  5. Dear Jon, This evening I read your post to Norma, who was texting a grocery order to a nearby Walmart --which I'll collect tomorrow at their loading dock. My beautiful blogging friend, Arleen (at https://acceptingchanges-maybe.blogspot.com) , calls it "trunk-poppin'-shoppin'". Norma was moved, especially by your introductory paragraphs, as am I. Thank you.

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    1. Geo - thanks for your kind comment and for reading this to Norma. I could have said a lot more - but will save it for my memoirs.

      Truck poppin' shoppin' is a lot easier on the nerves than daring to venture into Walmart.

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  6. Your mother was a beautiful woman. Was she a model? I especially liked the picture of her with the horse. In my opinion, you should leave this post up as a tribute to your Mom. She must have been a very artistic woman and I think you inherited those traits.

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    1. Incredibly, my mother would have never had the confidence to be a model. She had low self-esteem. That photo of her with the horse is probably my favorite. I've posted it several previous times. We both had a great interest in music, literature, and art.

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  7. Jon, there is no reason to feel you need to remove this post. It was a loving tribute to your mother who obviously influenced you in many ways, musically and otherwise. I too am glad to have seen it and hope you will leave it posted. I did not post about the day this year and so enjoyed this sweet remembrance. The last photo of your mom modeling that dress was great.

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    1. Well, Dorothy, your kind words helped convince me not to remove my Mother's Day post. In fact, I'm planning to write more about the subject in my next post.
      That photo with the Miss Universe dress was my Mom's favorite photo of herself.

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  8. I enjoy to see your stories of your mother. No matter her age in a picture, she had movie-star beauty.

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    1. The incredible thing is that my Mom never really thought she was beautiful - but she always tried to look her best. She never smoked or drank - which undoubtedly helped to preserve her looks.

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  9. This is a wonderful tribute to your beautiful mother. Aren't we all blessed to have the best mom? Keep your post up. You look so much like your mom too! Wendy

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    1. I know some people who had rotten mothers. We were indeed blessed to have good ones.

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