I bought this place in rural Tennessee in November, 2014 and moved in on Thanksgiving Day. Ironically, I was discharged from rehab on Monday the 20th last week - - just a few days from Thanksgiving.
Thankful? Absolutely.
Being away from home for six long months, caught in the agonizing realm of hospitals and physical therapy, is a journey that has completely changed my life - - physically and mentally.
I'm usually adroit with words, but this incredible ordeal has rendered me almost speechless (almost).
I've learned more things than I ever imagined. I initially was an extremely private loner (I hate the negative connotation of that word) who wanted to live out my waning years in peace and privacy.
( I took these two photos of my front yard this evening)
Suddenly I was rudely tossed into the blaring glare of doctors, nurses, physical therapists, ungodly medical procedures, and the fact that I would undoubtely die. I lost every imaginable shred of dignity. I was supervised around the clock.
The only thing I had left was courage, patience, hope, inner strength, humility, and a renewal of divine faith and fervent prayer.
As usual I'm excessively verbose - - but that's part of my (annoying?) charm *smile*
Last week, the day of my release from rehab, felt like I was reborn. It was a chilly, damp day but breathing fresh air away from confinement was exhilerating.
New cases of Covid were appearing in rehab and everyone was in a flurry. Perhaps I escaped just in time.
I was with a driver and a nurse. They took me to pick up the groceries I ordered from Walmart and then the long drive home.
(Photo taken of my rural abode when I first bought it)
I had to be helped up the front porch steps. When I got inside, I was stunned by the absolute mess. I had been extremely ill before hospitalization and left the house in shambles.
Annoyingly (foolishly?) I refused any outside help. The cleaning lady who was going to help quickly opted out. She claimed to be allergic to mildew but I'm sure it was an excuse.
Happily, I didn't find any mold or mildew.
I've always been extremely stubborn and fiercely independent. I want to do things my way with no interference.
Despite the fact that I'm extremely weak, can only navigate with a walker, and get completely exhausted after only a few minutes of activity - - I persevered.
While I was away there was a lengthy power outage and everything in the refrigerator spoiled and festered for months. I had a surplus of food in the freezer.
On my first day I cleaned out the fridge and threw out the food.
On the first week I literally forced myself to stand and - - with my walker - - did a little cleaning at a time. I had to stop and rest every few minutes, but I pushed myself to keep going. Slow progress.
I can't bend down or stand up straight, but what the hell.
An aside:
When I picked up a blanket in my room I got stung by a wasp! They came in through the bedroom window which was left open while I was away.
This post is getting far too long and I haven't scratched the surface.
In short (?)
Home care nurses visit three times a week for wound care and they have been extremely helpful. My social worker at rehab called the other day to see how I'm doing. Many people here have been kind and caring. I'm astonished and truly greatful.
I've ordered new blankets and bedding and threw the old ones out. I just ordered new pots and pans to replace the old ones that were sitting out in the kitchen for six months.
I finally had the furnace fixed yesterday - - so now I'll have heat for the winter.
What about Bosco (the cat)? I love him dearly but he's still with my cousin. I want this place to be clean and safe when he returns. Maybe in a week or two.....
I had chicken enchiladas for Thanksgiving.
I listen to opera to calm my nerves.
To be continued.....
With love, Jon
Thanks for touching base with your fans. Yes, I said it: We are your fans!
ReplyDeleteGood heavens, Donna - - you're making me feel like Elvis *smile*. Many thanks and hugs.
DeleteI'm glad you're home and even gladder there was no mildew! You've got this. Bit by bit. I love that you want it all squared away before the cat comes home! Your priorities are clearly right. And I'm hoping you'll have a lovely cosy winter together.
ReplyDeleteIt takes an enormous amount of effort and time, but the (slow) progress is rewarding. I'm delighted that there's no mildew - - and Bosco will be delighted that there's heat!
DeleteThis is really good news. I cannot deny I wish you would accept help cleaning but you won't so I commend you for finding a way. With your determination I think the walker won't be needed for too long. BTW, you really are remote!
ReplyDeleteFortunately I live in a small place, so there's not much to clean. I really hope I can gain more strength and eventually dump the walker.
DeleteI am definitely remote and the photo doesn't do it justice. The forest looks much more impressive in real.
You and us all can be thankful you came through!!!! That is a lot to take on and not to mention what you went through for 6 months. It's a testament really to wanting to go on living. Just don't take on too much and have a relapse, and I hope you get the house back to wear you want it. But thank heavens the furnace works!!!! That's a biggie. But my advice would be to not turn down any help, even if you feel you don't want it. It will help you recover more quick. I can only imagine your relief to be back home..
ReplyDeleteI really wish I wasn't sent home at the onset of winter, but at least I now have a warm house. I am admittedly taking on too much work, but I'm accomplishing things - - and I'm getting much-needed excercise.
DeleteBTW - I appreciated all the humorous cards you sent. Hugs!
I am both happy and concerned to read this update, Jon, but so glad that you did post to let all your blogger friends know how you are doing. While your progress may be slow by your own admission, you have made progress and we all know how happy you are to be back in your own place. What great news about a working furnace, and getting new cookware and bedding must make you feel better as well. Too bad about the spoiled food and the wasp sting (my least favorite insect). Please post your home mailing address as I am sure there are may fellow bloggers who will include you on a holiday card list - myself included!
ReplyDeleteI am delighted to be home, Dorothy , even though a lot of work is involved. I'm progressing slowly but I'm surprised at the results - - considering that three months ago I was too weak to even sit up in bed.
ReplyDeleteI hate wasps and was surprised that they were still thriving in November.
I wanted to post my address, but right now I'm not able to get my mail. My social worker is trying to get the post office to deliver it to my house. My present mailbox is too far away.
Glad for two things. You are not allergic to wasps and no mildew! Yay.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like you are getting back in the swing of things. Bet you will tear up at the smallest things the next few days, weeks...forever. Heat. Food. Bosco coming home. This will be a good time.
The wasp scared the jeeters out of me because at first I thought it was a spider. Glad I am mildewless (that's a new word). This long journey will never be easy but I'm content.
DeleteThank you so much for bring us into the loop, Jon! The conditions you found had to be both frightening and disheartening. Yet, if anyone was 'up' for the challenge, I lay my bets on you. Just please, don't overdo things. Chicken enchiladas sound delicious!
ReplyDeleteI usually have a habit of overdoing things, but now my physical limitations keep me in check. It's going to take a long time to get back on track, but I feel strangely content and motivated.
DeleteGlad you're home and starting to reclaim your life.
ReplyDeleteKeep your nutrition and fluids up as you recover, and the exercise is good therapy. I think you'll find it gradually get's easier as you get better.
Keep us informed, as you can.
I'm going to be traveling for a bit starting in a couple weeks, will check in now and then as I can.
Cheers
Mike
The exercise is indeed good therapy. If I don't keep active I'll regress. I just wish I wasn't so tired. I'm sure you'll enjoy your upcoming travels. Have a great holiday season.
DeleteIt's always good to hear from you, Mike. Keep in touch when you can!
Most wonderful news that I've heard in months! God bless you Jon, I'm proud of you and your strength- both mentally and physically.
ReplyDeleteLouise
I honestly never knew I had such strength, Louise. I surprised myself. All of the concern and positive thoughts from my blogger friends also helped immensely. Hugs!
DeleteYour advice and thoughts are always right on target. You fully understand what I've been through because you've experienced very similar things.
ReplyDeleteI never thought that Bosco will initially be unnerved about the walker. Fortunately cats are resilient Feeding the kitty and especially cleaning the litter box will definitely be difficult.
Thanks for your input!
This is the update we have all been waiting for!! So happy for you Jon! I too would like to send a Christmas card when you can give an address.
ReplyDeleteI only hope that the post office will be convinced to deliver mail to my door rather than a zillion miles away (slight exaggeration). I will keep you posted (no postal pun intended). Thanks, Cheryle.
ReplyDeleteWonderful news that you are finally back in your home!
ReplyDeleteDo you have access to a wheelchair, mine was a lifesaver when first returning home, even when I was tired I could scoot around and do chores, knowing I wouldn't be falling.
Take advantage of the help offered until you are stronger, and hopefully the post office will help with the the delivery of your mail to the porch.
Your home looks so serene and peaceful in the grounds, so happy you have returned.
Jo
After being away for six months, everything is overwhelming but exciting. I do have a wheelchair, but I mostly use the walker. It comes in handy in a small place.
DeleteTwo social workers are contacting the post office concerning the delivery of my mail. It would be an immense help if I could easily access it. I'm so glad I got my furnace fixed. It will be a cosy winter.
COZY - - I'm a terrible speller!!!
DeleteSo glad you're now home, Jon.....challenging as that is. Time and patience as you know. So relieved to hear that furnace was fixed. You'll have a warm winter now for you and Bosco. Hope they can arrange for your mail to be delivered to your door. Wish I was in the area to help you clean. I'm hell on wheels with a mop! Take care and keep us posted, Jon. Please reach out when needed!!
ReplyDeleteParanormal John
I could use hell on wheels with a mop. Right now I'm creeping with a walker, but making reasonable progress. I'm glad I got the furnace repaired. It was expensive but worth it. I will definitely keep posting updates.
DeleteI am SOOOO happy to hear you are FINALLY back home again! Must feel great!!
ReplyDeleteKim - it's so great to hear from you! It is wonderful to be home, but unfortunately there are no happy endings. My journey is a continuous uphill battle with more problems than I imagined. It will take weeks or months to get things straightened out.
ReplyDeleteMore updates coming.
I hope things are going better for you.
DeleteJon! I am SO GLAD you have finally arrived at your home. I understand completely your new appreciation of life. Home health care is great! Bill gets that now from the VA. They are absolute angels helping both of us at this difficult time of our lives here.
ReplyDeletePlease, no excuses are expected or needed if you post a long recounting of your return home. I'm sure all of us, your faithful longtime followers who are your dear friends, would love to hear EVERYTHING.
You have been given a second chance at life Joh. I am so happy for you and eagerly look forward to your future blog postings of what life is like for you now.
You DO have one of the best blogs on the Internet you rascal you!
Much love to you my friend,
Ron (from Retired in Delaware)
Ron, thanks for your thoughtful and sweet comment. You are a cherished friend. You're also one of the few bloggers who always bares his soul and tells all- - I appreciate that.
DeleteBeing home again is not as easy as I thought. There are many uphill battles and challenges to overcome.
I'll continue my updates.
Big Hugs, Jon
Wow! You have been through the wringer for over 6 months. So glad you are finally home. Prayers for your continued recovery and strength. Seems I remember you’ve been dealing with that furnace a long time, so glad it is repaired. Please don’t overdo it and stay warm and toasty this winter. Take care, Sheila
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